My blog reading habits have changed, just as my book reading habits have. In 2013 I was reading books like “A history of the word in 100 objects” and “The biggest estate on earth – How Aborigines made Australia” for leisure. In 2014, the titles have included “The good mother myth”, “Organising your home and family” and “There’s a green monkey in my purse.” The type of information I need has changed. The change in my reading habits has resulted partly because of my lifestyle changes. And these reading changes have extended to the blogs I read and engage with. There were many blogs I read with interest a few times a week, I engaged with the writers and shared their content. I no longer to do this, it’s not a personal affront to these writers in any way. There are many reasons why I’ve stopped reading (and/or commenting on) many blogs, and I thought it might be insightful to share them.
I no longer read some blogs because:
The balance between supporting friends that blog and nurturing and feeding my own desire to learn and grow became difficult. I tried so hard to engage and show my support for my friends who blog, regardless of what their blog might be like, but with more and more people deciding to start blogs this is becoming difficult to sustain.
My interests and needs have changed. Perhaps they haven’t entirely changed but the quantity of information I want to absorb about a particular subject may have decreased. I don’t want to read about fashion as much, nor do I want to engage with outfit posts. On the other hand, I do want to read more lifestyle posts.
Your interests have changed and you now blog about different things. There are a number of blogs that I loved reading, but the writers have decided to follow another path, one that does not currently coincide with the one that I’m on. Perhaps we will meet again later on? After all our needs and interests are always changing.
We just don’t connect any more. This could be the result of changes in our lifestyle or we’ve grown out of our blog friendship, and this is okay. I’m comfortable with this. It shows growth in my opinion. We’ve learnt as much as we can from each other, we supported and engaged with each other. We might still be in touch, and might help each other find other blogs and people that can further inspire us.
The blogger doesn’t engage with the reader beyond writing the post. There are blogs where the blogger writes the most engaging and thoughtful posts but then does not engage with their readers. By engagement I mean replying to comments/questions, reading/commenting on your blog (though not necessarily), and engaging on social media. I want to feel like you care, or at least appreciate that I took the time to read and engage with you and your content.
I have nothing to contribute. Sometimes I simply cannot contribute to the topics being discussed on a blog. There’s a blog that I like to read every now and then and I’ve had the pleasure of meeting the blogger behind it on a number of occasions. She’s lovely and she’s funny. Her posts are humorous and full of sarcasm – but I simply feel like I’m not funny enough to contribute anything (in terms of leaving comments). Posts about dieting and weight loss (for example) – I might congratulate the blogger, but honestly, I have nothing to add, and it’s not a topic I’m looking for information on, so slowly I pull away.
Their motives and philosophies aren’t clear. I’m really keen to know, from the beginning, why you’re blogging and what you hope your blog offers for potential readers.
I had a longer list of reasons but these encompass some of the main reasons I have stopped reading some blogs. I’ve had friendships develop from blog relationships, and while I may remain close to those bloggers, I don’t necessarily read their blogs as closely. It’s simply a matter of needs and interests changing mostly, and I don’t take it too personally or seriously when I lose a few readers.